I'm sure you've noticed already that this "catfish" has yet another name. Jackson William Anderson has been added to the list.
A Contact Us Form Entry 12-21-12:
"I just saw your Dr. Phil episode, and I wanted to tell you how brave I thought it was that you were willing to share your story on a national TV. I haven't ever experienced anything like what you went through, but I imagine it must have been (and probably continues to be) an incredibly painful and damaging experience. Thank you for being willing to speak about it and draw attention to the problem of "catfish." I imagine many people who saw the episode are now more careful and cautious about their online interactions with people. I haven't read the hateful FaceBook comments mentioned in one of the comments, but I know people are always incredibly quick to judge others, especially when they don't know them or don't try to relate to their situation. I think they try to tear other people down to convince themselves that they're somehow too smart to have the same thing happen to them. But it's so easy to fall into a fantasy; I imagine we all have, at some time or another and in different ways. It strikes me as ironic that during the show Dr. Phil highlighted how lack of empathy can be so damaging, and now some people seem to be responding to you without any empathy at all. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I thought you did a great thing and you don't deserve the backlash you're getting. Best of luck to you in the future!"
It appears as though there are 27 known girls now, however, very little information is known. The details are enough to say that this girl was definitely deceived by our "catfish." Please contact us.
A comment from the "Contact Us" Form:
I just wanted to tell you that I saw your story on Dr. Phil and all of the awful comments people made on his FB page. Unfortunately I think some people like to see attractive women feeling bad. I think that's why this sick person does this (Julie, according to what I've read on this page). I think she preys on attractive girls and wants to hurt them. She obviously wishes she was like you girls, and because she's not, she wants to hurt you so that you feel as bad as she does about herself. I thought that Dr. Phil really missed the boat on some of the points he made on the show. I think it was overall a great message that you girls gave to the general public, but he spent too much time promoting his book and it didn't really mesh well with the rest of the topic. I could also tell it was edited poorly because the show jumped way forward without hearing much from you girls and without ever saying how you girls figured out it was a catfish and how you figured out who the catfish was and if you confronted her. I can't believe someone would do this--and I applaud you girls for coming out with your story. Obviously this is happening a lot. Keep your head high and ignore all of the bad comments. Good luck!
"For all the other ignorant comments, we were on the show to take responsibility for our actions and to share with others so the same thing WOULDN'T happen to someone else. We have all moved on. They presented us as though we were currently going through this. This happened to me starting in 2003. We know all the signs. No one is saying anything we didn't already know before coming on the show. You've clearly missed the point, but then again, it was the way the show decided to portray us. It was meant to be more of a warning for others and to expose the perpetrator, not to make us look like fools. We were already fooled and we did learn from it. I can't blame you all for not understanding what the purpose was. To each his own."
"I made a website about this person in 2010 because I had been contacted by about 12 other girls having the same story as I. www.davidmatthewzane.weebly.com We know who the person is and she is exposed on the website (as much as possible without doing anything illegal). The police in her home town have a slight idea and it's sort of explained in a blog I'm writing on the website. I'm doing very well these days. I was already depressed and vulnerable when I got sucked in by this catfish and it took me to an even darker place. Its now a memory and experience that I can talk about. My mental health has never been better. I hate that people are so quick to judge but I suppose that is human nature. I smile on the show because I know how ridiculous it sounds. Hind sight is 20/20 but being involved in something like this is not laid out in a checklist like it is presented in the show."
"I honestly can't explain how the emotional attachment/connection happens but it really is all in your head. And in your head you can make it any way you want. It is a fantasy but you have someone there feeding you the fantasy and making it seem like it will be real some day. I beat myself up with the "what ifs." What if these really are happening and I'm an insensitive asshole for pushing someone to meet me? What if next time really happens? Like Dr Phil said, they find your vulnerability and take full advantage. He found my need for attention and wanting to feel wanted, special, and important. All of that worked for me and before I knew it, I was in too deep to just be able to walk away. And I felt very alone in doing it all. I was also defensive and torn when others tried to say something seemed fishy. I appreciate you being open and seeing it from a different perspective."
"If you notice, Dr. Phil does most of the talking during the show. His questions are very specific and are not open ended. He asks questions in a way that is looking for a certain response. They edited out a lot of my responses because he didn't like my answers. When he kept asking me "how was I selling this to myself", you'll notice my response of "because I was in love?" was more of a question than an answer because I honestly didn't know what he wanted me to say. When he asked me how long I was involved, he held up 3 fingers. The honest answer is OVERALL 2.5 years but I was moving on much sooner than that, but I counted the time until I no longer had any contact with "him." I was dating other people and "David" would still contact me out of the blue and continue to give me sob stories like his son died. In fact, when he called to tell me that, I was in my apartment with the person I was dating at the time. I included that time in the "almost 3 years" they kept saying but they didn't include any of that. Our recorded interviews were 1.5-2 hours long and you get 60-90 seconds of it."
"Good point! LOL That's pretty funny you say that whole pancake analogy (Dr. Phil says no matter how flat you make a pancake, it always has two sides). I know I've been guilty of the same thing...passing judgement of others on a tv show. I can honestly say having experienced this, I have a whole new appreciation for people who appear on these shows. Lisa, you are right. When filming, they presented it as they had done all the research and found the perp. We gave them all the information they needed. We already knew who it was and when they showed their video clip of the "perp" it was the wrong person and we knew it. They cut that entire segment out of the show when it aired. The biggest favor they did for us (although it backfires on us to a certain extent) was to let us get our story out there. Even though we are ridiculed, chastised, and demeaned, our story will mean something to someone and it might help them :)
Its clear that people have their thoughts and helpful comments about the show and advice to us as we appear on the show. We were lucky enough to be chosen to tell our story, however, we did not have control over the angle they took to share our story. I don't feel we were portrayed as accurately as we could have been. We were presented as though we don't know the warning signs or the red flags. We were presented as though this happened to us yesterday and we were pleading with Dr. Phil to help us. People are commenting that we need to take responsibility for our actions. We have taken responsibility for our actions (i.e. going on the show, for one) and we were hoping for Julie to take responsibility for hers. Julie claims she would have been more than happy to speak up on the show. It's interesting she chose to make that comment well after filming had already taken place. Taking the letters sent to her parents (back in 2010) to the police station is a clear indication she knew what the show was going to be about and yet made no effort to respond to their efforts to contact her.
The show is misleading in that it makes you believe they expose this "catfish." During filming they had a video clip of a woman walking into the building. Something didn't seem right and we knew right away that it wasn't the right person. Well, they couldn't air the clip because we let them know they had the wrong person, and they were given the police report to prove it.
The goal and purpose of this show was to help others. We hope to get the red flags and warning signs known to others so that it wouldn't happen to them. We did it so that if there are other victims out there, they can find their answers.
I know there is more support out there than what is being shared. It's the people who thrive on drama who post their negative and hateful comments. But I can laugh at it because it only shows their ignorance about this story. I can't expect that everyone will understand the complexity of our stories from a 42 minute tv show who took the most dramatic and shocking angle possible just to get more viewers.
Clearly the people who do not understand our story and are only critical are not the ones we need to reach out to. It's the current victims, the recent victims, past victims still trying to accept and come to terms with what they experienced.
Manipulation, isolation, control, betrayal, deception, abuse, baiters, and groomers are the same regardless if it takes place face to face or on the internet. A victim is a victim and a perpetrator is a perpetrator regardless of the avenues in which it occurs.
Some think we look like fools, but we know we are not. We know who the real fool is and they are being exposed through this website.
...To many more happy days :)